Improve Your Relationship with a Couple Bubble

Do you want to improve your relationship with your partner? Reduce the amount of conflict you have? Feel more connected?

The concept of “Couple Bubble” is an essential foundation to any couple relationship. It’s about feeling safe and secure.

What is a Couple Bubble?

In the book “Wired for Love” Stan Tatkin said that the “Couple Bubble” is a mutual agreement between two individuals to establish a secure place where the relationship takes priority. A Couple Bubble is a romantic place that partners develop and maintain together.

The kinds of commitments you would often hear from partners in a Couple Bubble are:

·         I will never leave you.

·         I will never intentionally upset you.

·         I will comfort you when you are in distress.

·         I value you, and you are important to me.

How do you create a Couple Bubble in your relationship?

The Couple Bubble’s core principle is that your relationship comes first. It’s a two-sided contract, not a one-sided arrangement where one person does all the work.

To build a couple bubble, you need to agree on what you are willing to promise to each other. What does your partner require to feel secure and safe?

Talk about what you really need from your partner. Seek to let go of minor disagreements. Create a dynamic that helps you feel comfortable and happy around each other.

Here’s a little exercise you can do together. Ask each other the following questions:

·         What are you looking for from me to feel safe and secure?

·         Are there any assurances or commitments you need from me now or in the future?

·         What kind of commitments are you prepared to make to me?

·         What would it take for me to do better next time?

Both partners need to work together to ensure that the bubble is maintained and cared for. You can improve your communication and uncover new opportunities for connection. Most importantly, you will tell how much your partner cares about that connection.

Need some help?

If you’re having trouble navigating this with your partner, we can help.

The Couple Bubble is the starting point. It’s the foundation for forming a loving, long-lasting, and secure connection with your partner.

In our couples counselling clinic in Melbourne, we love to work with couples to develop this safe space for their relationship. We offer a free no-obligation 10-minute consultation over the phone to see if our service might be a good fit for you.